Small Strokes Big Oaks

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I’ve been doing a lot of research into the world of feminist blogs to find out what my fellow feminists have to say about marriage.  Tim (the fiancé) thinks this is because I feel the need to justify my decisions to do things like have a diamond ring, a white dress, and a traditional ceremony or not change my name.  At first, I did feel overly concerned about whether or not my feminist friends would support my decision, but you have all left such wondeful comments and are so supportive that I no longer feel the need to justify my decision.  After all, it is my right to choose, and that’s what feminism is all about, right?  I do, however, want to be educated about what modern feminists are saying about marriage so I can feel well-versed in their rhetoric and be armed with things to say to justify myself to those who question me.

What follows is a list of posts I’ve found so far.  Have you been writing anything about marriage or have some links you’d like to share?  Please post them in the comments!  I’ll be compiling more lists like this as I go.

On the Name  Game: (see also my Good Wife paper)

• The Undomestic Goddess posed the question to Twitter, and this is what they said.
• Laura discusses her decision not to change her name.
• A guy even took his wife’s name! (Why were people so upset about that?)

Some more feminist marriage musings:

• News flash: All feminists are NOT man-haters.  Maybe feminists getting married helps prove that.  And feminists are not anti-marriage, either.  If Jezebel says it, it must be true.
• News flash #2: A woman’s wedding planning is not selfish.  Nothing wrong with knowing what you want.  In fact, I’m finding that makes planning a lot easier.
• Jessica Valenti at Feministing and Laura at Adventures of a Young Feminist both blogged about marriage issues on a personal level.
• And, to be fair, not everyone is pro-marriage.  But, hey, we have the right to choose!