Small Strokes Big Oaks

For those of you who don’t follow me on Twitter or Facebook, you may not know that Tim and I leave for our honeymoon tomorrow.  (Who says a honeymoon needs to be right after the wedding??)  We’re going to Napa… Read more ›

This could just as easily have been titled “Things I’ve learned From the First Five Months of Cohabitation”.  The marriage and the cohabitation really do blend together.  I know it’s only 2 months into my wedded bliss, but it’s a steep learning… Read more ›

A recent survey showed that 4 in 10 Americans now believe that marriage is obsolete. I saw this on the news a few weeks ago, but I was too busy reading The Hunger Games to comment.  It’s too bad, too,… Read more ›

People are often flabbergasted when they realize I am a feminist and I am married.  Of course that doesn’t apply to any of you; if you were flabbergasted then you probably wouldn’t be reading this blog.  Somehow, though, they don’t… Read more ›

Sunday breakfasts are maybe my favorite part of married life.  No matter what has been going on, no matter what we have to do  before work starts on Monday, we sit down to a huge breakfast on Sunday mornings and talk.… Read more ›

Stephanie (one of my favorite bloggers/tweeters – you should check her out) pointed me to this Shakesville article yesterday that deals with the [radical] idea that, as feminists, we shouldn’t judge women who decide to take their husband’s name upon… Read more ›

I absolutely cannot wait to tell you all about my wedding ceremony and all of the wonderful personal touches we added that made our nods toward traditional wedding ceremonies feel completely unique.  But I really feel these stories will not… Read more ›

… wait till you have kids!” I should have known this would be the most common comment I’d receive when I said marriage is hard.  Of course, it was more or less a tie between that, “grow up” and “stop… Read more ›

A fellow Twitter-er read yesterday’s post about early marriage being difficult for me and asked: “Why do you think the act of getting married changed things?  I’m genuinely curious.”  I responded, of course, but 140 character-bursts don’t seem to do this topic… Read more ›

Being married is hard. Well, it is.  Three weeks in, at least. There have been so many times these past few weeks when I’ve thought to myself that I might as well have changed my name because everything about my… Read more ›

This page actually exists.  And people actually answered the question.  I hope upon hope that it’s satire, but because I know people, I’m fairly certain it’s not. Related PostsI Don’t Have a Problem With Dove’s #choosebeautiful Campaign Men Change Diapers?! I’m… Read more ›

A while ago, after Tim and I first moved in together, I wrote this post, right around the time I decided I’d really like to restructure this blog and write about the things I care about and that affect me… Read more ›

One of my lovely commenters said on my last post about why I chose marriage that “there’s something very powerful about speaking as a married person to say that you support marriage equality and are not threatened by it.”  I’ve… Read more ›

Speaking of feminism and relationships… This is what a feminist couple looks like! Complete with his and hers wedding-style aprons, courtesy of Tim’s sister, Elly, also pictured here.  Further proof that we plan on sharing household duties equally!  And in… Read more ›

Tim and I moved in together on July 1. And we have been fighting ever since. Don’t get me wrong; we haven’t been fighting 24/7.  Not at all. No, it’s more of the silent tension every time I have to… Read more ›

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” – Lady… Read more ›