Stephanie (one of my favorite bloggers/tweeters – you should check her out) pointed me to this Shakesville article yesterday that deals with the [radical] idea that, as feminists, we shouldn’t judge women who decide to take their husband’s name upon… Read more ›
Did you know that the tradition of saving the top tier of the wedding cake for consumption one year later originated in the 19th century when people believed that, after a wedding, a christening wouldn’t be that far off, so… Read more ›
I absolutely cannot wait to tell you all about my wedding ceremony and all of the wonderful personal touches we added that made our nods toward traditional wedding ceremonies feel completely unique. But I really feel these stories will not… Read more ›
A fellow Twitter-er read yesterday’s post about early marriage being difficult for me and asked: “Why do you think the act of getting married changed things? I’m genuinely curious.” I responded, of course, but 140 character-bursts don’t seem to do this topic… Read more ›
I know you all are dying for a wedding recap from me, but the fact of the matter is I’m just not ready to do it yet. I know, I know. I can’t bask in the perfect-ness of my wedding… Read more ›
Today, as I was perusing Tumblr, I came across this gem of an article all about a bride who asked her sister, who happens to need a wheelchair, to be a bridesmaid but then did not ensure accessibility for her sister… Read more ›
I am not changing my last name. This should not come as a surprise to you. In fact, I believe most of us have addressed this fact at length. No, I have not changed my mind. No, I will not… Read more ›
Tim and I have been struggling quite a bit lately about how to incorporate our pro-LGBTQ and pro-marriage equality activism and opinions into our wedding. We’re not quite sure the best way to do this, and we have been back… Read more ›
One of my lovely commenters said on my last post about why I chose marriage that “there’s something very powerful about speaking as a married person to say that you support marriage equality and are not threatened by it.” I’ve… Read more ›
One year ago today (well, yesterday by the time this hits the internets), Tim proposed to me. Do you know what he said to me with that ring in his hand, on his knee? He said: “Will you do me… Read more ›
Speaking of feminism and relationships… This is what a feminist couple looks like! Complete with his and hers wedding-style aprons, courtesy of Tim’s sister, Elly, also pictured here. Further proof that we plan on sharing household duties equally! And in… Read more ›
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Jillian is a 25 year old graduate… Read more ›
Hey there, readers! Sorry I haven’t posted for a few days. I’ve actually been dealing with a lot of wedding stuff that I’m just trying to get done before school starts on Monday, and it’s been both fun and trying. … Read more ›
OK, so I just said I was extremely privileged in my relationship/marriage/wedding-planning. Why, then, did I decide to get married, since I do feel very strongly about marriage equality and not everyone has the right to get legally married at… Read more ›
I am privileged. Extremely privileged. And there seems no better way than planning a wedding to remind me of this. All. The. Time. I am a heterosexual, cis female so I can actually plan a wedding and get legally married… Read more ›
Yesterday, Emily from Gender Across Borders graciously allowed me to cross post her article about changing her name for my series about feminism and relationships. You all, gentle readers, were very nice in the comments over here. Emily wasn’t so… Read more ›
Tim and I moved in together on July 1. And we have been fighting ever since. Don’t get me wrong; we haven’t been fighting 24/7. Not at all. No, it’s more of the silent tension every time I have to… Read more ›
You know, I’ve been writing a lot about feminism and relationships on here lately. Maybe because I’m getting married in less than 3 months? I don’t know, just a guess… But whatever the reason, I think it’s a really important… Read more ›
“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” – Lady… Read more ›
And I thought this sort of stuff only happened in movies… …or maybe it does happen in movies and I’m now socialized to believe it should happen to me, too, and that’s why it happens. Chicken or the egg, eh?… Read more ›