Small Strokes Big Oaks

Being married is hard. Well, it is.  Three weeks in, at least. There have been so many times these past few weeks when I’ve thought to myself that I might as well have changed my name because everything about my… Read more ›

A while ago, after Tim and I first moved in together, I wrote this post, right around the time I decided I’d really like to restructure this blog and write about the things I care about and that affect me… Read more ›

I cannot say enough about the importance of this post.  Body image issues affect us all, even if we don’t want to admit it, and these issues can complicate our relationships so much.  It can be difficult to maintain a relationship… Read more ›

Today, as I was perusing Tumblr, I came across this gem of an article all about a bride who asked her sister, who happens to need a wheelchair, to be a bridesmaid but then did not ensure accessibility for her sister… Read more ›

We have a fourth post from Not Guilty about relationships and feminism!  She actually sent this post to me about two weeks ago, and I responded that I was taking a significant break from blogging so I could concentrate on… Read more ›

This phrase is more prevalent than it should be in discourse regarding relationships and marriage.  Tim and I were talking about this the other day in regards to my latest post on name changes and how people either do not… Read more ›

Tim and I have been struggling quite a bit lately about how to incorporate our pro-LGBTQ and pro-marriage equality activism and opinions into our wedding.  We’re not quite sure the best way to do this, and we have been back… Read more ›

In this latest piece in a series about dating as a feminist, Not Guilty effectively and interestingly tackles the inevitable issues of compromise that arise in any relationship, but especially, it seems, when one person is trying to hold on… Read more ›

One of my lovely commenters said on my last post about why I chose marriage that “there’s something very powerful about speaking as a married person to say that you support marriage equality and are not threatened by it.”  I’ve… Read more ›

I think is interesting how feminism and long-distance relationships seem to fit together and be mutually beneficial.  I, myself, was in several long(er)-distance relationships throughout undergrad and well into my first teaching job.  In fact, I had relationships that involved… Read more ›

You might remember Not Guilty from her previous post about online dating as a feminist.  She had designed an experiment in which she decided to sign up for an online dating site and include the fact that she is a… Read more ›

One year ago today (well, yesterday by the time this hits the internets), Tim proposed to me. Do you know what he said to me with that ring in his hand, on his knee?  He said: “Will you do me… Read more ›

Over the past few weeks, Safa – the author of the following guest post – and I have written back and forth quite a bit and have found that we are quite kindred spirits.  Her wedding is in October, and… Read more ›

Today’s guest post literally moved me to tears.  I was sitting, waiting for the train after the last Chicago Feminist Tweetup when I first read it, and it was so powerful and honest, I just had to share it with… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships, but is also about the author’s relationship with feminism!  It’s a feminist guest post double-whammy, if you will!  And, Gwenn has guest posted here before!  You can see… Read more ›