Since I began the wedding planning, I thought our ceremony was going to be largely traditional. The white dress, the readings, the music (I guess The Beatles are sort of traditional for weddings…), the rings, the vows. I really believed… Read more ›
Stephanie (one of my favorite bloggers/tweeters – you should check her out) pointed me to this Shakesville article yesterday that deals with the [radical] idea that, as feminists, we shouldn’t judge women who decide to take their husband’s name upon… Read more ›
… wait till you have kids!” I should have known this would be the most common comment I’d receive when I said marriage is hard. Of course, it was more or less a tie between that, “grow up” and “stop… Read more ›
Cat Rocketship, the author of this guest post, is maybe like my long-lost twin. She writes today about how she reconciles being a housewife and being a feminist, and her themes really work well with what I’ve been writing about… Read more ›
A fellow Twitter-er read yesterday’s post about early marriage being difficult for me and asked: “Why do you think the act of getting married changed things? I’m genuinely curious.” I responded, of course, but 140 character-bursts don’t seem to do this topic… Read more ›
Being married is hard. Well, it is. Three weeks in, at least. There have been so many times these past few weeks when I’ve thought to myself that I might as well have changed my name because everything about my… Read more ›
A while ago, after Tim and I first moved in together, I wrote this post, right around the time I decided I’d really like to restructure this blog and write about the things I care about and that affect me… Read more ›
I know you all are dying for a wedding recap from me, but the fact of the matter is I’m just not ready to do it yet. I know, I know. I can’t bask in the perfect-ness of my wedding… Read more ›
This phrase is more prevalent than it should be in discourse regarding relationships and marriage. Tim and I were talking about this the other day in regards to my latest post on name changes and how people either do not… Read more ›
Think of a time you were facing an important change in your life. What was that change? How did you handle it? Were you ready for it, or did you want everything to stay the way it was? Explain. This… Read more ›
When I started my new job three years ago, the author of this post and I quickly discovered that we were very alike – we both consider ourselves feminists, we both work very hard to do a good job teaching,… Read more ›
One of my lovely commenters said on my last post about why I chose marriage that “there’s something very powerful about speaking as a married person to say that you support marriage equality and are not threatened by it.” I’ve… Read more ›
One year ago today (well, yesterday by the time this hits the internets), Tim proposed to me. Do you know what he said to me with that ring in his hand, on his knee? He said: “Will you do me… Read more ›
Speaking of feminism and relationships… This is what a feminist couple looks like! Complete with his and hers wedding-style aprons, courtesy of Tim’s sister, Elly, also pictured here. Further proof that we plan on sharing household duties equally! And in… Read more ›
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Gwenn Liberty Seemel is named after the… Read more ›
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Jillian is a 25 year old graduate… Read more ›
OK, so I just said I was extremely privileged in my relationship/marriage/wedding-planning. Why, then, did I decide to get married, since I do feel very strongly about marriage equality and not everyone has the right to get legally married at… Read more ›
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Lacey is a 27-year-old college writing teacher… Read more ›
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Laura Smith is a student of BA… Read more ›
I am privileged. Extremely privileged. And there seems no better way than planning a wedding to remind me of this. All. The. Time. I am a heterosexual, cis female so I can actually plan a wedding and get legally married… Read more ›