I Deserve This Space
It has been over a year since I’ve been here. I spent the better part of a decade working to cultivate this site. I wrote some damn good pieces here – and elsewhere – in that decade. I did some… Read more ›
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The Childfree Life’s A Beach
Oh, TIME Magazine. You’ve done it again. Last summer, you asked moms if they were “mom enough” by showing a picture of a perfect mom complete with a flat stomach, skinny jeans, and a breastfeeding toddler, insinuating that moms who… Read more ›
Closed-Door Policy
You know what I just realized this past week? MY OFFICE HAS A DOOR. OK, that might sound stupid, but hear me out. During the summers, I work from home. When Tim and I first got married, we had a… Read more ›
Offbeat Families: Why I’m not letting tragedies stop me from having kids
I’m at Offbeat Families today talking about the tough stuff – how I feel about having babies after the Boston Marathon bombings: My thoughts turned to my friend at work who had given birth that day, and her baby who… Read more ›
Marital Mistakes
Tim mowed the lawn this weekend. This was not the first time this season that he has done so; the torrential rains this spring have made our grass grow full and green. However, it was the first time he forgot… Read more ›
Take a Cue from the Runners: My Thoughts on the Boston Marathon
It’s a strange thing to be so happy that your husband hasn’t yet lived out his lifelong dream. Tim has always been a runner. Since his high school days, he’s been on cross country and track teams. He gets up… Read more ›
Linksplosion: Day Off Edition
I had a freebie day off today. A freebie day off is when you are pretty much the only person you know who has the day off. Everyone else is at work, so I stayed home, ate copious amounts of… Read more ›
Feminist Odyssey Blog Carnival, 8th Edition: Feminism & Love
I’m very excited to be hosting this month’s Feminist Odyssey Blog Carnival! This month, we are talking about Feminism and Love, and what better time to do it than the shortest, coldest month of the year the month that holds… Read more ›
I’m Not Ready For Babies, And That’s OK: An Open Response to Janine Kovac
I love reading articles on Role/Reboot. In fact, I am on their list of regular writers. I try to write for them once a month because I appreciate their work in questioning gender norms in relationships – something I’ve been… Read more ›
Stop Comparing Ourselves to Others
In an effort to be more present, I’m trying to stop comparing myself to others. It seems that this envy or grass-is-always-greener syndrome is an epidemic among women in their late 20’s and early 30’s – at least it seems… Read more ›
A Resolution of No
Every year since we’ve met, Tim and I have had an epic New Year’s Eve. Usually, that just means going to a friend’s house and hanging out or, for the past few years, we’ve had people over to our apartment… Read more ›
Pressure to be Pregnant
I’m not pregnant. Lately, I feel like I have to wear a t-shirt with these words emblazoned on it so people can stop skirting around the issue. I’ve noticed you haven’t been blogging so much recently. Any particular reason? Oh,… Read more ›
Rethinking the Routine
I’ve been thinking this week that I need to get back into a routine that incorporates writing. This year has been a difficult one because we have so many new things going on at school, and I haven’t been able… Read more ›
What’s Best for the Family
You might recall a few weeks ago that we got a new dog. You might have also sensed that I was a bit uneasy about the dog becoming a part of our lives. He was very anxious, and made the… Read more ›
Two Years And So Much More
Two years. Where has the time gone? In two years, we’ve gotten a house, two dogs, and more love than I could ever imagine. One year ago, I was just starting to realize that functioning as a unit isn’t a… Read more ›
I’m Not Judging You
I’ve been musing a bit about last names recently, probably because I’m gearing up for another school year where I will be referred to solely as my last name for the next nine months. I actually enjoy this. It allows… Read more ›
Why Did I Keep My Last Name If I Don’t Use It?
Many people who learn that I kept my last name when I got married need a reason. They often ask why I made that decision or look at me with confusion. Some assume that I kept it because I am… Read more ›
Slaying Dragons
When I saw this cartoon on The New Yorker‘s Tumblr page, I had to laugh. Like many people (I imagine. Maybe this is just me.), most of the times I come across a New Yorker cartoon, my first reaction is to think, Wow,… Read more ›
Role/Reboot: You Can Clean the House and Still Be a Feminist
I’m over at Role/Reboot today, talking about a clean house and feminism: I’d pick fights with [my husband] when I got really frustrated. After I’d balled my last sock, I’d find something that wasn’t done and I’d whine and complain… Read more ›
It’s My Life, I Guess
This post was written as a submission to The Last Name Project, a joint series by from two to one and The Feminist Mystique that explores what people do with their names when they get married, or what they are… Read more ›