Small Strokes Big Oaks

Some people here and there have been arguing recently that there are more important things that we feminists could be writing about than issues pertaining to relationships.  People are dying because of lack of access to health care, bullying, and… Read more ›

Speaking of feminism and relationships… This is what a feminist couple looks like! Complete with his and hers wedding-style aprons, courtesy of Tim’s sister, Elly, also pictured here.  Further proof that we plan on sharing household duties equally!  And in… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Gwenn Liberty Seemel is named after the… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Jillian is a 25 year old graduate… Read more ›

Hey there, readers!  Sorry I haven’t posted for a few days.  I’ve actually been dealing with a lot of wedding stuff that I’m just trying to get done before school starts on Monday, and it’s been both fun and trying. … Read more ›

OK, so I just said I was extremely privileged in my relationship/marriage/wedding-planning.  Why, then, did I decide to get married, since I do feel very strongly about marriage equality and not everyone has the right to get legally married at… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Lacey is a 27-year-old college writing teacher… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Laura Smith is a student of BA… Read more ›

I am privileged.  Extremely privileged.  And there seems no better way than planning a wedding to remind me of this.  All.  The.  Time. I am a heterosexual, cis female so I can actually plan a wedding and get legally married… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Not Guilty writes at her blog, Finding… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Ms. Wizzle founded her blog, feminsthemes.com just… Read more ›

Yesterday, Emily from Gender Across Borders graciously allowed me to cross post her article about changing her name for my series about feminism and relationships.  You all, gentle readers, were very nice in the comments over here.  Emily wasn’t so… Read more ›

Tim and I moved in together on July 1. And we have been fighting ever since. Don’t get me wrong; we haven’t been fighting 24/7.  Not at all. No, it’s more of the silent tension every time I have to… Read more ›

This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships.  If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Emily Heroy lives in Chicago, her home town.… Read more ›

You know, I’ve been writing a lot about feminism and relationships on here lately.  Maybe because I’m getting married in less than 3 months?  I don’t know, just a guess… But whatever the reason, I think it’s a really important… Read more ›

“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” – Lady… Read more ›

And I thought this sort of stuff only happened in movies… …or maybe it does happen in movies and I’m now socialized to believe it should happen to me, too, and that’s why it happens. Chicken or the egg, eh?… Read more ›

Ahh, the “marital budget.”  Even when you’re young and poor and have few financial assets, merging finances – or deciding how not to merge finances – can be tough.  Tim and I are relatively young, not all that poor, have… Read more ›

s.e. smith over at this ain’t livin’ posted an awesome post the other day about the difference between critiquing institutions and critiquing the individuals that are a part of those institutions.  Here’s a brief part from the post: Yet, somehow,… Read more ›