Tim and I moved in together on July 1. And we have been fighting ever since. Don’t get me wrong; we haven’t been fighting 24/7. Not at all. No, it’s more of the silent tension every time I have to move the dining room chair back the way it was, or every time I have [...]
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cutting down oppression one small stroke at a time
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Guest Post: I advocate feminism; I will also take my future husband’s last name. So?
This is a guest post in a series on feminism and relationships. If you’d like to submit a guest post for this series, see the guidelines here and submit your post to samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com. Emily Heroy lives in Chicago, her home town. A city girl at heart, she moved to New York City in 2003 to [...]
Call for Guest Posts on Feminism and Relationships
You know, I’ve been writing a lot about feminism and relationships on here lately. Maybe because I’m getting married in less than 3 months? I don’t know, just a guess… But whatever the reason, I think it’s a really important topic to cover. There are lots of us out there who identify as feminist or [...]
A Feminist Wife
“Some women choose to follow men, and some women choose to follow their dreams. If you’re wondering which way to go, remember that your career will never wake up and tell you that it doesn’t love you anymore.” – Lady Gaga (h/t mmmfeminism) “I’m not much for the 9 to 5. I’m not much for [...]
Is this really me?
And I thought this sort of stuff only happened in movies… …or maybe it does happen in movies and I’m now socialized to believe it should happen to me, too, and that’s why it happens. Chicken or the egg, eh? Or maybe it is just “normal” for there to be a bit of an identity [...]
Money and Partnership
Ahh, the “marital budget.” Even when you’re young and poor and have few financial assets, merging finances – or deciding how not to merge finances – can be tough. Tim and I are relatively young, not all that poor, have several of our own assets already, and would really like to start saving to buy [...]
Bride-Bashing is Woman-Bashing: My Response to FMF’s Choices Campus Blog
This post at Feminist Majority Foundation’s Choices Campus blog has got me riled up. It was this type of bride-bashing that strongly contributed to my break from the feminist blogging community, and has definitely been at the root of my frustration with feminism. Women have choices. We should have the right to make those choices. [...]
Wedding Woes
Ok. I need to do some venting about the bridal industry. You may have noticed that I haven’t blogged about wedding plans in quite some time. This is because I have the good fortune to be very organized and relatively decisive and to surround myself with people who are the same. Once I decided on [...]
More Feminists on Marriage (some Link Love)
I’ve been doing a lot of research into the world of feminist blogs to find out what my fellow feminists have to say about marriage. Tim (the fiancé) thinks this is because I feel the need to justify my decisions to do things like have a diamond ring, a white dress, and a traditional ceremony [...]
My (Not So) Feminist Wedding
In case you haven’t noticed, I’ve been on hiatus for a few days. You know you missed me; you can just admit it. For those of you who don’t follow me on Twitter or other social networking sites, you may not know that I am now engaged to the most wonderful man in the world. [...]
