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Comment on Do I have to give birth to my baby? (Thoughts on Adoption) by KATE

KATE — Sun, 12 May 2013 05:27:11 +0000

When it comes to bringing a new person to the family it does not make a difference from where that person comes from even if is not blood related. But giving birth to my daughter did make me see the difference of having someone growing inside you for 9 months and having someone in your arm already born. The difference is huge but those people who never had kids would never understand. Having a special something growing inside you made from your and your partner’s DNA is a very emotional experience that an adopt child cannot give you. I am really happy when someone adopts a child because I do believe that everyone needs a chance to grow in a good environment regardless of where they come from. What I try to explain is that giving birth to someone that was MADE inside you is an experience your adopt child did not give you. I will love an adopt child as much as I love my daughter but having my own child was the best blessing my body has given me. I am not trying to say that adopting is bad but we cannot compare the two because every experience comes with something special.

Comment on Do I have to give birth to my baby? (Thoughts on Adoption) by Kae

Kae — Sun, 12 May 2013 03:08:26 +0000

Kate – your response is full of ignorance: “Is nice to adopt kids that deserve a “home” but it doesn’t matter how many kids you adopt they will never be the same was giving birth to your “own” child.” I couldn’t disagree with you more. My brother was adopted. Blood doesn’t make you family. Love, that special bond, makes you one. I don’t think of my brother as different or adopted. I couldn’t be more proud or love him any more than I already do. My parents love him just as much as they love me, he was very much wanted. People like you are selfish and ignorant … don’t call other people out on issues you don’t agree with … especially when your heart is so small. Educate yourself more … you are clearly lacking information.

Comment on Marital Mistakes by Rachel A. Hanson

Rachel A. Hanson — Wed, 08 May 2013 14:16:06 +0000

Early in our marriage (although, we’ve only been married 2 1/2 years so arguably it’s still “early”) I would sometimes share these small problems with my friends (particularly if we were having a fight). But my friends, although I love them, would show their stereotypical feminist sides when I mentioned these problems. “Men just don’t understand, you were obviously in the right.” “You do too much for him, you deserve to not have to worry about the litter box” and other things that generally blamed Nathan for what was going wrong and going after him as a person.

This really bothered me, so I stopped doing it. Now I have some good friends who I can vent to (because that’s really all that is needed) without them coming after Nathan or me and no blame is distributed.

Comment on DIY: Turn Your Closet Into A Craft Nook by Sara M.

Sara M. — Fri, 19 Apr 2013 22:46:14 +0000

It looks great – I love it!

Comment on Take a Cue from the Runners: My Thoughts on the Boston Marathon by Carrie Nelson

Carrie Nelson — Thu, 18 Apr 2013 11:36:52 +0000

I’m fascinated by how this event is affecting very different communities in very profound ways. I’m not a runner, nor am I connected to the running community, but the bombing impacted me because of how intimately I know that city. During college, a few of my close friends lived together in an apartment about two blocks from where the bombing took place. I associate that part of the city with parties and long talks and watching the July 4th fireworks from a rooftop, and it was deeply unnerving to see those streets covered in blood. And the fact that it happened on Patriots’ Day, the most Massachusetts-specific holiday, is particularly sad. I haven’t lived in Boston for close to five years, but for so much of my life, it was the only place I really knew. This was the first time an event like this has literally hit so close to home. And I really hope they find the person who did this soon.

If Tim’s talking about the Boston Marathon for next year, I think that’s a great idea. I totally understand your concerns, but I’ll bet that next year’s marathon will be filled with more runner and city pride than any previous event. It’ll be an amazing one to attend. I hope you’re able to go!

Comment on Do I have to give birth to my baby? (Thoughts on Adoption) by Shannon

Shannon — Mon, 08 Apr 2013 02:16:41 +0000

Finding this blog was totally random, but I am so glad that I did. Hubby and I are trying to decide if we will move straight to adoption or try for a genetic child. Nice to see that we are not the only people facing this dilemma. Thank you!!

Comment on Tension Can Be Fun, But Relationships Are Too by Rebecca W.

Rebecca W. — Sun, 24 Mar 2013 22:57:11 +0000

I have loved how they’re handling Season 5 of Castle. “Don’t ever do something like that again….without me.”

Comment on “I’m not a feminist, but…” by Aran Lenart

Aran Lenart — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 07:16:23 +0000

I am actually the daughter of Silvo Lenart (one of the authors of this study) and I grew up with the idea that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being a feminist. It wasn’t until high school that people would give me a hard time if I said I considered myself a feminist or I supported the feminist movement. Even now, as a college student, I find it sad and confusing when my female friends who take gender studies classes complain about their “crazy femo-nazi professor”. It has always been hard for me to understand what is so bad about wanting equal rights for women and what is so scary about a powerful woman. I’m glad that people are still reading my dad’s article and contemplating how valid the results are even today.

Comment on Yea, we fight. You don’t? by Reflection 31- “Being a married person that believes marriage shouldn’t be some exclusive club is quite powerful.” | The Marriage Project

Thu, 14 Mar 2013 00:55:04 +0000

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Comment on “Husband” and “Wife”: Symbols of Archaic Times? by Reflection 31- “Being a married person that believes marriage shouldn’t be some exclusive club is quite powerful.” | The Marriage Project

Tue, 12 Mar 2013 23:28:15 +0000

[...] Some believe that the word “wife” is archaic. Oddly enough, I was a bit queasy about using the term “wife,” but was never all that bothered by the term “husband.” As stated above, I’ve made my version of the term “wife” into what it means to me, and that’s all that matters, plus it’s made me feel better about it. Once I was able to realize that, I became much more comfortable with the word. [...]