Stop Comparing Ourselves to Others

In an effort to be more present, I’m trying to stop comparing myself to others. It seems that this envy or grass-is-always-greener syndrome is an epidemic among women in their late 20’s and early 30’s – at least it seems that way among my friends. To that end, I wrote about it at Role/Reboot:

The funny thing is, though, that a lot of my friends who are doing the things I perceive as awesome are wishing that they were living my life right now. My friends who are PhD candidates are wishing they could finish so they’d be able to get a job and have enough money to buy a house. My friends who are writing books are wishing they had more free time. My friends who are planning cross-country moves are wishing plans were finalized so they could stop feeling like they were in limbo.

I guess the grass really is always greener.

This feeling of inadequacy—maybe even envy of each other—that my friends and I are feeling is an epidemic among women in their late 20s and early 30s. It seems that, no matter what we do, we feel like we should be doing something else. Nothing we do is ever good enough, no matter how fantastic other people think it is. Being at peace with our choices is next to impossible, especially when we see others who are so happy doing something else that we’ve had on our own bucket lists for a long time.

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