I am becoming increasingly frustrated with wedding mentality and pressure. There is so much pressure to be perfect when you’re preparing to be a bride, and it’s sad to me how many women buy into this. I, myself, bought into it! I felt I had to do EVERYTHING perfectly, and, instead, ended up doing everything wrong – because I was trying too hard.
Then, something just… clicked. I was poking around Facebook, and saw a trend in the ads on the right side of my screen. Almost all of them were for a Wedding Weightloss routine that, of course, since I’m a bride-to-be, I must follow.
Let me pause for a second here to divulge something about me that you may not know. I am thin. Skinny, even. So I really have no right to complain about my body, and I try not to, but even skinny bodies come with their own body image issues. (You won’t believe what I’m adding to my gown and wearing underneath my gown against my principles to get the figure I want. (Or you will believe it because you’ve seen it or you’ve been there.)) And, don’t get me wrong. I have a strapless wedding gown, and I am following a workout routine for my arms. But I will not NOT NOT diet. It is unhealthy and unnecessary.
But the pressure to be perfect and look perfect doesn’t stop at thinness. I’ve always felt my teeth were crooked and too big and my worst feature on my face. That was until I went to get my eyebrows done for our engagement pictures and the eyebrow tech told me I had “quirky” eyebrows and then launched into a spiel about how my face wasn’t perfect. She framed it as a good thing, but I didn’t hear any of that. And now I can’t stop focusing on my quirky eyebrows.
Enough is enough! I am not perfect! (Weird, I know.) But I will still be a beautiful bride! EVERY bride is beautiful! We need to stop feeling the pressure to be perfect! And there seemed to be no better way to do this than to show the world what REAL beautiful brides really look like. So, I created a tumblr to do just that. It is called This Is What A Beautiful Bride Looks Like, and I’m looking for pics of REAL brides because you are all REALLY beautiful! You can submit pics to me via e-mail – samsanator(at)gmail(dot)com – or tweet it @samsanator.
Let’s show the bridal industry what real beauty looks like!